Me – Selfish?

Marriage is hard, isn’t it?  It can just really be a pain sometimes.  The main reason it is hard is that I love ME most and want MY needs met first.  And that does not result in a great relationship, whether marriage or otherwise.

Think back.  For every difficult period in your marriage, what was the bottom-line cause.  Could you boil it down to a selfish spirit?  I challenge you to think about that honestly as you look at yourself in the mirror.

Unfortunately, husband, I believe the Bible teaches that biggest burden falls on you.  If you can set the tone for the marriage by being a godly spiritual leader, then wife will have no excuse for not submitting (Eph 5).  But the cool thing is that she will WANT to submit because she will know you are leading her in God’s way.

I want to encourage you both to set aside whatever you think your dream is right now – house, baby, degree, career, retirement fund, big vacations – and put the MARRIAGE first.  Because if you get any of that other stuff and your marriage doesn’t survive, then what do you have?  Nothing but a lot of pain to clean up for years ahead.

As a believer, I don’t think God cares a whit about what your dream is until you care about what HIS dream is.  And once you are turned on to that, your life will blossom into something you could have never dreamed.

A Day of Thanksgiving

Today is our family’s Thanksgiving celebration.  Some day maybe we’ll get to have all 5 children’s families together, but this year just 4.  My Matthew and his wife are coming for the traditional Thanksgiving holiday from Phoenix.

But it seemed important last year to Ellis’ boys to have something for our family.  In the past I haven’t always tried to cram it in because they had other events to attend.  And with work schedules including work over the holiday weekend, this was the best weekend to do it.

The Lord is working in our family in many ways and I am so thankful!

My soul, praise the LORD, and do not forget all His benefits. He forgives all your sin; He heals all your diseases. He redeems your life from the Pit; He crowns you with faithful love and compassion. He satisfies you with goodness; your youth is renewed like the eagle. The LORD executes acts of righteousness and justice for all the oppressed. He revealed His ways to Moses, His deeds to the people of Israel. The LORD is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger and full of faithful love. He will not always accuse us or be angry forever. He has not dealt with us as our sins deserve or repaid us according to our offenses. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is His faithful love toward those who fear Him. As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us. As a father has compassion on his children, so the LORD has compassion on those who fear Him.  (Psa 103:2-13 HCSB)

We have members of our family who need the Lord.  Even some of our grandchildren are old enough to understand that they need the Lord.  So today I am praying that we will have opportunity and boldness.

Lord, let me witness through my gratefulness and thanksgiving for your faithfulness to us individually and as a family.